It’s Christmas – Can Your Spiritual Intelligence Help You?


Sarah AlexanderBy Sarah Alexander

It’s Christmas – Can Your Spiritual Intelligence Help You? – Yes, it can! As a Migrant Woman in the UK, you may find some of our Christmas customs and traditions different to your own. Or they may seem very familiar. Whatever your plans for this Christmas, your Spiritual Intelligence is on hand to help you at this busy time. All you have to do is ask for its help.

Your Spiritual Intelligence is that inner wisdom, instinctual knowledge and intuitional guidance that can provide answers for any problem or issue. It can provide answers and solutions for every area of your life, and the ultimate aim of your Spiritual Intelligence is to bring you peace. So, if Christmas is a challenging time, you have an inner GPS that can and will help you with every detail of the Christmas festivities.

So what causes you concern at Christmas? Choosing the right party clothes? Buying just the right gifts for some people or for all of them? Having enough money to cover all the presents you need to buy? The prospect of Christmas alone or with the relatives? Cooking for a large number of people? Making a fair decision about how much time over Christmas should be spent with one side of the family or the other? Or is it all of the above?

Releasing these seasonal problems to your Spiritual Intelligence starts with following four steps. These steps enable your inner guidance to help you. If you have doubts about the existence of this guidance system and its ability to help you, put it to the test. Ask for help and see what happens!


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The more clarity you give to your request, the better. It is also very important to make your requests in the positive, instead of in the negative. Asking that “The relatives do not end up staying all week”, or that “Aunt Maude doesn’t buy me the same calendar again this year”, or that “Granny Mildred doesn’t drink too much sherry” will not bring the Universal energies rushing to your help. Framing your desired outcomes in the positive, however, will attract its full assistance.

Below are some suggestions for framing your Christmas requests to your Spiritual Intelligence in a clear, positive way:

  • I am guided to the perfect present for each person
  • I have all the money I need to buy those perfect presents
  • I look fabulous in my lovely Christmas party outfit
  • I have all the time I need to do all the shopping, cooking, cleaning and preparing for the Christmas period
  • My whole Christmas time is filled with happiness, joy and, most important of all, peace
  • All my family greatly enjoy the festive period and gain pleasure from each other’s company
  • My Christmas cooking is done with ease and enjoyed by all
  • All my family members are happy and content with all the Christmas arrangements I have made
  • I am very pleased with how well Christmas goes and the gifts I receive
  • You can ask for anything that you want. Be creative and think of new, exciting ways to enjoy Christmas.

Framing your desired outcomes in the positive, will attract its full assistance.

Remember this proviso though: add to your list of requests that you intend for this outcome or something even better. That allows your Spiritual Intelligence to use its creative ideas to bring you something even better than you have imagined. Your Spiritual Intelligence can see the bigger picture of your life, and therefore can see that you could have so much more than you ask for. Leave it up to this Intelligence to bring you the very highest and the best that you deserve!


Having made clear requests, your next step is to let go of those requests completely. Imagine releasing requests into the hands of your inner Intelligence or your Higher Mind, thus freeing you from carrying around that burden of concern. If you try to hold onto your desires, or worry about when and how they will come to you, you will make it very difficult for your Spiritual Intelligence to bring them to you. Know that you will receive the guidance that you need at exactly the right time and in exactly the right way. With that guidance, the energy to act will come so that doors open for you, things happen easily and all you need comes to you in an effortless way.

This attitude of total detachment declares: “I am happy if this happens and if it doesn’t happen, I am happy too.” The more you can surrender your expectations and desires of what you think should happen and how it should work out, the easier you are making things for your Spiritual Intelligence. From its position, your inner Intelligence really can see what your highest good and greatest joy is. With everything you desire in life, the more you can totally let go of your expectations, the more easily life can work out for you.

If you try to hold onto your desires, or worry about when and how they will come to you, you will make it very difficult for your Spiritual Intelligence to bring them to you.


Your Spiritual Intelligence communicates with you through your subtle inner senses and feelings. It speaks to you through synchronicities in your life, and through repetitive ideas and feelings. It acts almost like an internal “GPS”. Coupled with all, the inner guidance is the gut feeling or sense of “Yes, this is right.” This guidance is helped by your ability to spend quiet time alone, focusing on your breathing and allowing your full breath to imbue you with Spiritual energies.

This quiet time alone is not difficult to achieve – it can be when you are in the bath, alone in your home, walking in the park or even sitting in a traffic jam. Any time during which you can take full, deep breaths while intending to connect with your Spiritual Intelligence is the perfect time. Being open to its guidance is also the key for the more you are attuned to the messages of your inner senses, the easier it is to recognise and receive guidance.

Imagining that your first intention is to buy the perfect presents, how would inner guidance help you with this?

You may go out shopping on a sudden whim, perhaps in your lunch hour, and your attention is drawn to a certain shop, perhaps one that you haven’t been into be.fore.  You take time to look at its wares and your awareness is drawn to an ornament, a picture, or an item of jewellery, and you know with absolute certainty that it would make the perfect present for your mother. The feeling of inner knowing and “rightness” that accompanies this is unmistakable.

By contrast, you may have set aside a certain day for buying presents. Again, notice the gentle drawing of your attention to the right displays, in the right shops, in the right locations.  Feelings of expansiveness, pleasure and a sense that you are being gently taken in the right direction, characterise this guidance. It is not something you can force. It simply happens naturally. Be willing to say: “Please guide me” and act on the guidance you are then given, instead of trying to work out logically what to do and where to go.

When cooking the perfect Christmas meal, allow certain recipes to be shown to you if you want to try some new dishes. You may feel impelled to watch certain cookery programmes, search the internet for ideas, or be given a great recipe by a friend. It would be easy to discount this as your inner guidance, but this is the way that your Spiritual Intelligence works – opening your awareness to new ways of thinking and doing things, and assisting you in taking the easy route to your desired outcome.

Is your request to be able to afford all the Christmas presents on your list? First, you have to be able to hear your Higher Mind’s response. This definitely re.quires your willingness to relax about money and how it may come to you. Lately, so many negative messages about money have poured from the media that it can be hard not to get caught up in the spread of fear. However, the more you can step out in total trust that the money will be there and see yourself having all the money that you need, the more that will be the reality for you.

Spiritual guidance may include guiding you to certain pre-Christmas sales where the perfect presents are at great discounts; they may nudge you to buy at lower prices on the internet; you may receive a bonus or cash gift unexpected by you, but already known by the Spiritual Intelligence. In endless ways, your inner intelligence can ensure that you have the money to buy all that you need at Christmas time. Be re.laxed. Be open. Be receptive to its nudges and have absolute confidence in knowing that the nudges will come.


The more you are attuned to your subtle inner senses by experiencing times of quietness every single day, the easier it is to receive guidance from your Spiritual Intelligence. This may simply come to you as new thoughts or ideas. Whatever the form of the message, the content will be repetitive, and it is very important that you do act upon it. When you act swiftly on this guidance, you act in alignment with your “flow” as well as your Spiritual Intelligence.

If your intention is to have a Christmas Day filled with happiness, joy and peace, you may be guided to get everyone up and out on a walk after lunch instead of let.ting them sit around and doze; you may be guided not to serve certain foods or beverages; to buy ready-prepared vegetables as a time-saving measure; to have the meal ear.lier or later; to play games at a certain time; or to let everyone know in advance that you want the evening to yourselves as a family. Let yourself be open to new ideas about how to create a happy Christmas.

Your Spiritual Intelligence is on hand to help you at this busy time.  All you have to do is ask for its help.

Above all, let yourself be relaxed about how you could create a different Christmas Day. The more relaxed you are, the easier it is for your inner Intelligence to work to support you. On the day, invite in Spiritual energies to add the energies of light and love to your Christmas. See how much you, and all those around you, enjoy it as never before.

Yes, it can. As a Migrant Woman in the UK, you may find some of our Christmas customs and traditions different to your own. Or they may seem very familiar. Whatever your plans for this Christmas, your Spiritual Intelligence is on hand to help you at this busy time.  All you have to do is ask for its help.


Sarah Alexander is the author of ‘Spiritual Intelligence in Business: The Eight Pillars of 21st Century Business Success’ and ‘Spiritual intelligence in Leadership: From Manager to Leader in Your Own Life’.