Angela from Italy and Kenny from Uganda have found a safe home for their love in London. Their story reveals a special bond which is guiding them to experience an amazing feeling and a journey full of colours.
When did you realise or believe that this is your soul mate?
I dared not believe that she might be my soul mate, for fear of blowing it! Early on when we first met, there was always something there, a spark that was aching to come alive in me that I felt in her. Then watching her during the workshop I saw her free-spirited aliveness and being aware of the boundaries, as well as the innocence of her beauty when lost in thought or whatever she was doing. It was just there and we have gently opened up to it together. We still are. Angela is breathtaking.
What has changed in your relationship since then?
Since getting married I feel that Angela has let me in more, like she is safer to commit and grow together, as an aware adult couple looking to the long term. Saying that, we were not aware that she was holding back before!
I saw her free-spirited aliveness and being aware of the boundaries, as well as the innocence of her beauty when lost in thought or whatever she was doing.
We are currently on a lifestyle change as we detox with the GAPS (Gut And Psychology Syndrome) nutrition programme, as Angela has a long standing health issue that we are successfully tackling once and for all. It’s quite a journey and we have never looked or felt better – another adventure for us, side by side with open hearts and eyes of wonder.
What do you do to keep your love relationship healthy?
We spend a lot of time together, Angela’s full time job and Kenny’s consultancy and evenings groups allowing. We love walking in nature, so we regularly go self-catering in the heart of the British countryside, as well as beach trips and adventures of discovery abroad. We know each other very well and communication is both in words and in silence, which we blissfully share on a regular basis.
Angela’s a bit of an early bird and I can be a night owl, so personal space naturally appears. We don’t try and ‘get it right’, we play big enough in our lives for things to ‘go wrong’, then we can support each other or work together to adjust and make choices from what life brings.
We know each other very well and communication is both in words and in silence, which we blissfully share on a regular basis.
One very basic and incredibly valuable thing I learned early on in our relationship is that when Angela is telling me a story about something that’s going on for her, or someone close to her, I need to ask her whether she wants me to try and help ‘fix it’ or just listen. It’s in the nature of many
men, including me, to think ‘she must be telling this because she wants me to put it right, or come up with a solution, or turn it around somehow’.
I’d take the feelings of frustration, helplessness, etc. on board as my failure, so I’d needed to fix it for both of us! What’s more often the case is that she simply wants to debrief and all that’s necessary is a listening ear, an open heart, our space to be with the story, so Angela doesn’t have it buzzing in her head any more.