Many people continue to stay in a place that is comfortable and do not attempt to change. It is easy to justify stagnation by claiming the inability to know things are possible and to not attempt to pull out the roots of the past in the hope for a positive change. Indeed, unlike the trees, we have the mind which can lead us to find a place we want to plant our roots. Instead of complaining that the land where we are does not have fertile seeds, it would be better to pull out the roots and search for a place where we feel calm so we can become our own true selves.
However, this requires determination, commitment, and courage to face ourselves and our mistakes, accept them and learn from them. Obviously all the skills required to explain why we put this off for a later time could also be used to make changes directly. While these attempts are put off, the years escape and often the pressure of time passing by starts to work against us. Then, when we finally understand that there is no time to lose, we can decide not to be a hostage of our own past mistakes. What has passed has passed. There is nothing we can do with the failures that were experienced yesterday or even from years ago. It is today that the bread holds a fresh aroma. Tomorrow it will no longer be there. This is the main idea that we have to remind ourselves of daily. Of course there is always a second chance and that is tomorrow.
The good news is that the future can never be like the past if we make the choice to change. We have to remember that the adventure of life is beyond the map although a map can be a helpful guide for action and provide the opportunity to raise awareness and to correct the way we recognise ourselves.
Read what some migrant women share with us from their past:
Darshana Ubl, Entrepreneur – from India
My first job was working night shifts in a call centre for 8-10 hours five nights a week, getting paid a mere £100 per month. It was a hard life juggling work at night and a university in the day. But it taught me that life can be hard if you don’t have a game plan. You need to take charge of your destiny and design the life that you want.
Ivana Bartoletti, Politician – from Italy
My mum taught me feminism at a very young age and I learned very early on how important it is for women to support each other. Inequality deeply disturbs me. I want every child to have the same opportunities. I really couldn’t bear the idea of going through life without doing all I can to make the world a better place. What motivates me is faith in the human race – we can do much better than this. Women are still at the sharp end of inequality and I want to do all I can to change this.
Maria Luca, Psychologist – from Cyprus
I remember going to sleep at night and having a recurring dream of being in classroom learning. I would wake up in the morning with a spark and simultaneously a disconcerting sadness. I knew that somewhere in the depths of my psyche held an unrealised desire. I was twenty six, married and a mother of two boys, a nine and a five year old, when I started my undergraduate degree. In those days I was seen as a mature student and for me it was a heavenly opportunity. The ecstasy of being a university student kept me awake at night. This had been the start of my emancipation as a woman and a journey to personal development.