FEAR! FEAR! is the cape that hides our traits and veils our potential.
The silence in the room is eerie. Not one single sound, not one single breath is being heard. It feels like the whole room has been vacuumed of noises and has been sound proofed. An image of the famous painting ‘The Scream’ by Edward Munch could have been invoked, but the soundtrack is inaudible. I want to cut this fog of quietness and speak my mind but, as most of us have been unconsciously trained not to disagree with our boss, our so-called superiors, I make a huge effort to bite my tongue.
A cruel remark has been just slammed in one of my colleagues’ face, and I am trying to understand why not even one of us is reacting. People seem to be under anesthesia, injected with the ‘fear serum.’ The more I look around, the more I see that nobody is willing to jump into the discussion or have, as a matter of fact, some sort of an opinion.
Is it Fear …or it is just the Dracula Untold version?
All of us were born in love and out of love, and the more we add years under our belts, the more we forget about the divine cloth we are were made out of, picking so many fears like the colours of the rainbow. We are afraid of being judged, criticised, blamed, put down, singled out, rejected, dumped, and left behind. We are afraid of being demoted, fired, ostracised, and labeled negatively.
Since when has Dracula – the Prince of Darkness, resided in us on a daily basis? Since when has the night overextended itself into the day? But, let’s take a closer look; maybe everything starts with fear and from fear, or from that feeling that we have labeled as being ‘fear,’ and is obviously seen, according to popular belief, as a negative one.
Born in a Communist regime, under the scrutiny of the Secret Services, dodging bullets during the Romanian Revolution in 1989, I have learned that Fear is as real as you want it to be!
Marianne Williamson once said in A Return to Love, “our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.” On the one hand, people are afraid of losing things like their job, house, spouse/partner, so they mobilise themselves to do something in order to avoid being fired, being foreclosed on their property, or just being dumped by the love of their life.
And, on the other hand, at the end of the rainbow, because they are not afraid of anything, not even of death, they jump from planes, they push their bodies far beyond their limits, they travel to unknown and dangerous places in this world, they flirt with blurred lines and uncharted territories, they take the bull by its horns and wrestle with their demons.
Born in a Communist regime, under the scrutiny of the Secret Services, dodging bullets during the Romanian Revolution in 1989, I have learned that Fear is as real as you want it to be! Fear is an emotion like any other. If used to your advantage, it can move mountains and create palaces, while being afraid of your fears, creates even more of them.
Fear is an emotion like any other. If used to your advantage, it can move mountains and create palaces, while being afraid of your fears, creates even more of them.
Whatever you focus on, it grows! Whatever you label as being ‘Negative’, will prove itself to you as being negative. And, the reverse of the coin is that whatever you think and label as positive will multiply itself and work for your benefit.
You can either treat your ‘Fear’ as positive, or negative, or you can, after all, dance with it without any judgment or labelling. Since I started living in the US, coming from Dracula’s county – Transylvania, I adopted the third approach; I have started looking at my Fear as my Dancing Partner. The more I step on his shoes, the more I need to practice that move and make up for it. The moment that I am aware, kind, sweet and giving, my Fear becomes Fred Astaire! I can waltz, tango, bolero rumba and salsa with him as much as I want while having the time of my life!
If your buds of Fear have been aroused and you want to be taken on the journey of re-channelling those emotions, you can always join me. The music has just started, and we are ALL on the dancing floor; each move, breath, or emotion is worth being acknowledged and jotted down.
Care to join me?